"There are no happy endings, because nothing ends"
"It’s pointless. You don’t know what you’ll want five years from now. It’s binding your future with the present, which will be the past."
He has a very good point. We aren’t the same as we woke up being (just ask Alice), so why do we think we should know what we want *our entire lives* in advance? Our needs and wants will change, as they should. Half of living is learning how we change. Is discovery. What is the point if we already know?
Furthermore, we are told over and over again to let the past go. Making future plans is superimposing the values of a past version of you. What you believe now, the foundations of your planning, are subject to change. Frequent, oftentimes devastating, change. Why would you ever want to declare “this is what I value and always will” and promise yourself the one thing you cannot promise- that you will always value that one thing vital to your plan? You can’t predict that. What’s more, someday that will mean you have let your past dictate who you are.
Now, goals and plans are not the same things. Goals are based on progress, improvement, and can be achieved, yet there is no guarantee. Plans are based on who you are right now and preserving that person. Plans mean you have failed if they don’t happen.
There’s a great lie in this country: you are important because your name is known. It isn’t true. You don’t have to have a grand plan to be valuable. In fact, when plans go astray, that’s often when we devalue ourselves. We are humans. We have the right to change our mind (so long as people aren’t relying on us, etc).
I don’t have a plan. My goal was make it to MN and then figure it out. I have goals, but making plans is just an invitation for trouble. In my opinion and experiences.
So, tonight was supper, bowling, talking, then seeing a Burlesque show in a cool club. Fae Molly is happy.